There are many presentations and books on how to discipline your children. In this presentation, we explore what discipline is but focus more intently on how NOT to discipline our children.
Discipline is not Punishment
Why Threats and Bribes Don’t Lead to Cooperation and What to Try Instead
With children, give reinforcement not punishment, direction more than correction
Why Time Outs Don't Work (and What to do Instead) by Nina Garcia
Science Again Says Spanking Hurts Kids Long Term (from WebMD)
Science Again Says Spanking Hurts Kids Long Term. In early November 2018, the AAP announced its first spanking recommendation in 2 decades. The updated policy statement strengthened its earlier call to ban corporal punishment and says spanking as a form of discipline harms children physically and mentally, in how they perform in school and interact with other children.
Which Is Better, Rewards or Punishments? Neither
Admonish Don't Punish
Admonish, don’t punish.
As believers in Christ, we are called to admonish one another. This means "to train by word” through reproof, encouragement, or protest (as opposed to grumbling). And we are to do so gently, speaking the truth through love. How much more should this approach be toward our own children? Admonishment is greater than punishment.
Help Your Misbehaving Child with These Techniques
10 Points that the Pro-Spanking Crowd Totally Missed.
What's your parenting style? Connecting or Controlling?
Spanking is ineffective and harmful to children
Everything you think you know about disciplining kids is wrong
Everything you think you know about disciplining kids is wrong? Yes.
Leigh Robinson was out for a lunchtime walk one brisk day during the spring of 2013 when a call came from the principal at her school. Will, a third-grader with a history of acting up in class, was flipping out on the playground. He'd taken off his belt and was flailing it around and grunting. The recess staff was worried he might hurt someone. Robinson, who was Will's educational aide, raced back to the schoolyard.
Will was "that kid." Every school has a few of them: that kid who's always getting into trouble, if not causing it. That kid who can't stay in his seat and has angry outbursts and can make a teacher's life hell. That kid the other kids blame for a recess tussle. Will knew he was that kid too. Ever since first grade, he'd been coming to school anxious, defensive, and braced for the next confrontation with a classmate or teacher.
The expression "school-to-prison pipeline" was coined to describe how America's public schools fail kids like Will. A first-grader whose unruly behavior goes uncorrected can become the fifth-grader with multiple suspensions, the eighth-grader who self-medicates, the high school dropout, and the 17-year-old convict. Yet even though today's teachers are trained to be sensitive to "social-emotional development" and schools are committed to mainstreaming children with cognitive or developmental issues into regular classrooms, those advances in psychology often go out the window once a difficult kid starts acting out. Teachers and administrators still rely overwhelmingly on outdated systems of reward and punishment, using everything from red-yellow-green cards, behavior charts, and prizes to suspensions and expulsions.
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